Unrest is a feeling that we often cannot define as something that “bothers” you. Yet it is a feeling that many people recognize as being vague, not a pleasant feeling, dizzy… in short, an uneasy feeling and which does indeed bother you, to a greater or lesser extent. What can you do if you have this relatively vague feeling and you want to get rid of it?
Synonyms for restlessness are: “confusion, fear, embarrassment, anxiety, restlessness, violent movement, strife, strife.” An emotional state that is familiar to many and yet many people have problems recognizing and ultimately recognizing that they have been restless for a long time. Not surprising in itself, because you cannot simply put your finger on the sore spot when you have a feeling that is not very concrete. Which implies that many people who ultimately recognize the feeling do not really know what to do with it, let alone know where it comes from.
Recognize and acknowledge
It starts with recognition and, as mentioned, that is quite difficult. The more unrest can manifest itself differently in every person. Yet for many people the stomach is leading in the vague feeling called unrest. It seems to work on the intestines, because for many people that is the weakest spot, but this is not necessarily the case. So be alert in all parts of the body if you have an indefinable vague and persistent feeling. It is about the feeling of what is going on and that means recognizing it . Only when you recognize it, in whatever form, does the aspect of recognition come . Recognition is still an obstacle for relatively many people, because you actually recognize that there is something that makes you restless and being restless is, as indicated earlier, seen as a form of fear, confusion and shyness. For many people, these aspects represent weakness and no one wants to be weak. This means that recognition is not yet recognition and therefore we must first get rid of the idea that unrest represents weakness.
Don’t want to be weak
Weak or not weak, we all have our own definitions of it. But more important is the fear of being weak. This is a deeply rooted concept, because being weak is synonymous with being a loser and being a loser can mean falling by the wayside and in the distant past this often meant dying. So it is not that easy to clarify that being weak on the one hand is not serious, especially if you want to work on it. On the other hand, unrest does not have to be a weakness at all, but rather a strength.
Power that comes from the beautiful phenomenon called intuition. An indefinable feeling that humans receive at birth and that children certainly use involuntarily (children are still pure). They don’t realize it, but not so the adult human being. Adults, especially in the Western world, have difficulty with something that cannot be substantiated by facts. A feeling is a feeling and is not supported by science.
But that does not mean that the intuition is not there and it can simply reflect that restless feeling. Consider, for example:
- You meet someone and out of nowhere you get an unstable feeling. Where the man or woman can simply look nice and sweet.
- You come somewhere for the first time and you get that unstable feeling. This does not have to be a scary environment, but can just be in any relatively “standard” environment / space.
- You think of someone and suddenly get an uneasy feeling.
- You think about a random situation and the feeling comes over you.
It is always about people, environments and situations. Apparently out of nowhere you get such a feeling, but the apparent is not so apparent. Your intuition is at work and although it usually does not immediately become concrete what is going on, there is something that makes that feeling alert and a feeling of unrest can arise.
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What to do?
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- The most important thing is to listen to your body. What is the feeling, give it a chance. Be alert when that feeling arises and do not ignore it.
- Ask yourself what it could be and examine different situations, listening very carefully to your body and asking which questions (to yourself) increase your anxiety. This can be about people, situations or environments.
- Define something that comes close and although you should follow your gut, you don’t have to turn off your mind. Emotion and reason go well together in this. Just don’t try to explain it 100%. A feeling often cannot be explained – especially in the beginning.
- Give it some time, especially if you are not yet sure, for example if it is relatively new.
- The next step is to act and then various issues may arise.
Different situations, how to act?
It is important to ask yourself all kinds of questions and be honest with yourself about them. As
- A person who gives you that feeling : Do you want to do something with this person, is he a potential new business partner? Think about why he/she makes you feel this way. It could be a signal not to do business with it. Don’t you trust him/her? Are you suspicious by nature or not? In the latter case, what do you not like about him/her?
- An environment that gives you this feeling : An environment can make you feel uncomfortable. Should you stay there? What makes you feel? A certain space, something you see in that space?
- A situation where the feeling arises : It could be a situation that does not belong in the flow of your life. Is there a “must” character, but something you would rather not do? Is it something you don’t like? Something new? Are you afraid of change?
With everything you answer honestly and listen to your body. The questions often work like a funnel and ultimately take you a long way. Sometimes, however, this does not work and you make a decision that is either safe and therefore based on your rationale or not and you follow your feelings. The only question then is whether that unrest will disappear afterwards. Finally, trust your feelings and make mistakes. Unnecessary hurt is never the case if you follow your feelings, but dare to admit it and repair situations.
Whatever you ultimately choose, don’t keep walking around with the feeling. This is not good for your body and also not good for the mind. Anxiety will distract you and that is not good for focus. Unrest comes from somewhere, it is not just an act, so if the feeling does not disappear within a day or so.